“Why do things have to change?” It’s probably natural to look back with nostalgia and to wish things could stay the same. This seems to be true whether we are talking about the weather, a relationship or a job. Change is a natural part of life, yet we resist it.
Change in living things is essential–it is called GROWTH. Without it we cannot continue to exist. And yet, many of us struggle with the aspects of change, resisting it at every opportunity. We wish our relationships could stay the same; we wish nothing would change in our workplace. We wish we could stay the same size we were in high school. We wish the size of our town could stay the same.
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Category: Awakenings · Getting There · Spirit & Soul
How good are you at keeping your word? Many of us try very hard to keep our commitments to others. We try to call if we say we will. We make every effort to show up when others are counting on us. We try to get projects done on time. We don’t promise things we can’t deliver.
We want our word to be worth something. That’s part of living with integrity.
Unfortunately, many of us are not quite as good at keeping our commitments to ourselves. How many times have you said “I’m going to. . .” only to have that intention fall away? “I’m going to slow down.” “I’m going to lose weight.” “I’m going to get my life in order.” “I’m going to exercise regularly.” “I’m going to watch less T.V. and spend more time reading.” “I’m going to get to bed at a decent hour.” Sound familiar?
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Category: Getting There
I’ve been working with people for about 30 years now, in all sorts of contexts. Some have seen me for therapy to get over a trauma, or to change how they cope, or to overcome depression or anxiety. Some see me for business coaching, to grow their business and achieve financial security. Some consult me for career coaching, to figure out how to get a more rewarding and satisfying job.
It has only recently hit me that all people the people I work with share the same obstacles to their success (O.K., call me a slow learner). Those obstacles that crush their success are their limiting beliefs. The challenge is that sometimes we don’t even realize that we hold a particular belief.
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Category: Getting There
When you are wondering what life is all about, you are searching for its meaning. When you wonder what you’ve been put on earth to do or be, you are asking about the meaning of your life. When you express the desire to make your life count, you are acknowledging the importance of having a meaningful life, and making a difference.
Having meaning in your life has long been recognized as an important element in enabling humans to cope with adversity and live with greater satisfaction. Knowing your life’s purpose can give direction to your life, and help you figure out where to focus your energy, time and money.
Your life’s purpose provides a singular, unifying theme in your life. It provides a focus that is uniquely YOURS. Your life’s purpose must be something that fits you—not your mother, not your boss, not your spouse. The focus of your life needs to fit you and your unique blend of personality, passions, talents and gifts.
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Category: Getting There
If you’ve been plagued by a problem in your life, especially if you’ve had that problem for a long time, you might assume that you’d be eager to get rid of it. You might think so, but actually, when you get right down to it, the contrary is often more true.
People get used to having their problems, even though they may be uncomfortable and you would like to get rid of them. You see, you may KNOW how to be depressed, or anxious, or sick. Those feelings, although uncomfortable, are familiar to you.
Contemplating something else is a bit scary. It may be hard to even imagine what life would be like without the problem that has been with you for so long. Contemplating and taking action to do or be something else is even scarier still.
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Category: Getting There
