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Being Single
- Embracing Life as a Single
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Being single has its challenges. I have notice, however, that being in relationships is also challenging! Life is an interesting process, full of twists and turns, changes and status quo, bends in the road, surprises and magical moments. However, unlike dating sites that are geared for people seeking relationships, there’s a website for singles that does not treat being single as a problem to be solved.
Children
- Without Children | Without Choice
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I do not have children and have my regrets about that. A good friend of mine also has no children, but has recently (at age 57) assumed primary responsibility for her brother’s 4-year-old. This is eye-opening for her, and a great joy, although quite a lifestyle change!
It must be devastating to try and try, and not be able to have children, as this article attests to. My girlfriend went through a great deal to conceive her two children. She used an excellent OKC doctor who has a great reputation (Dr. David Kallenberger). I would love it if you would create a community here in which to discuss your feelings, your resources, and your coping strategies. This article also provides you with another community to help you cope with infertility.
Outgoing link: New York Times: Facing Life Without Children When It Isn’t by Choice
Coping with Death
Dating
- Finding the “Right Relationship”: What Makes a Relationship “Right?”
- Dating Rules
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Finding the “Right Relationship.” Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? It speaks of romance and “happily ever after.”
First of all, let me clarify something. I’m not a believer that there is only ONE “right” person for each of us. I think there may be a lot of “right” people for you.
What makes a person “right?” I believe it has to do with both of you bringing out the best in each other. When the relationship clicks, and you are in synch with each other, the things the relationship can be or do surpass what either of you can do alone. There is a synergy that takes the relationship beyond the individual, and allows each person in the relationship to grow as well. A relationship like that is truly something special.
Divorce
- You Are Not Alone!
- Life After Loss
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If you are going through a divorce, you are probably not alone, according to www.divorcerate.org. The following will give you some insights. Bottom line, you are more at risk for divorce if you married young, if you are childless, or if this is your second or third marriage (or more!).
Yet, even though you know the statistics, if you are in the midst of divorce, this information does not help. I will write more about coping strategies over time, and please feel free to write about your thoughts on the Community Forum. In the meantime, just know this is probably an unsettling time, a time of great stress, a time of intense feelings. Try to take deep breaths, and take care of yourself. Moments of deep breathing help one cope through any stressful situation. Treat your partner with respect, even if angry. [Read more →]
Engagement
- Ten Marriage Deal-Breaker Questions
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Engagements can be fun and exciting! But it is easy to get lost in the wedding plans and forget the bigger picture of marriage. Below are ten Deal-Breaker questions to ask yourself before you tie the knot:
1. Children: Do you want to have children? It is a huge red flag in your relationship if you and your future spouse can not agree on whether to have children or not. Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage is a mistake. Making a decision to have a baby when one parent doesn’t want to have children is not fair to the child or to your marriage. [Read more →]
Friendships
- Trust in a Relationship - Despite Popular Belief, the Key is Being Authentic
- What Do the Dog Whisperer, Supernanny and an Executive Coach Have in Common?
- Toxic Words: Verbal Abuse Can Hurt You
- Reconnection With Others Allows You to Connect With Yourself
- Finding a Meaningful Relationship: 4 Tips for Looking in the Right Places
- Friendships and Change
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More and more lately I hear people talking about being “authentic.” I’m not sure if it has become a buzz word, or if people are really craving honesty and the kind of connection that can come when two people are authentic with each other.
I suspect that many people have become aware of the roles they play, the masks they wear. They worry that if they were really themselves, friends or coworkers wouldn’t approve of them. They pretend to be some way that they think will be acceptable. Or they avoid being vulnerable by hiding their “real self” behind behavior that isn’t really honest.
Marriage
- Keeping Your Relationship Thriving: 5 Tips for Making Love Last
- Getting Ready for the “Right” Relationship
- Marriage Through Tough Times
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When you’ve kissed all the frogs you intend to, and have found what you think is the right relationship for you, you’ll need to do some thing to make sure your relationship lasts. Just as you have to water and fertilize flowers in your garden, relationships need to be nurtured in order to thrive.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be difficult. There are a number of small things you can do to keep your relationship on track.
1. Don’t take your honey for granted.
Parents
- The Sandwich Generation
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More than 25% of American families are involved in some way with elder/parent care. So, if you are, you are not alone. A New York Times article (Jan 17, 1999) called “A Survival Course for the Sandwich Generation” described this new phenomena, as parents lived longer, and Boomers waited until later to have children. The Sandwich Generation means defines situations as: [Read more →]
