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Being Single
- Embracing Life as a Single
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Being single has its challenges. I have notice, however, that being in relationships is also challenging! Life is an interesting process, full of twists and turns, changes and status quo, bends in the road, surprises and magical moments. However, unlike dating sites that are geared for people seeking relationships, there’s a website for singles that does not treat being single as a problem to be solved.
Children
- Without Children | Without Choice
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I do not have children and have my regrets about that. A good friend of mine also has no children, but has recently (at age 57) assumed primary responsibility for her brother’s 4-year-old. This is eye-opening for her, and a great joy, although quite a lifestyle change!
It must be devastating to try and try, and not be able to have children, as this article attests to. My girlfriend went through a great deal to conceive her two children. She used an excellent OKC doctor who has a great reputation (Dr. David Kallenberger). I would love it if you would create a community here in which to discuss your feelings, your resources, and your coping strategies. This article also provides you with another community to help you cope with infertility.
Outgoing link: New York Times: Facing Life Without Children When It Isn’t by Choice
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Dating
- Dating Rules
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Dating can be challenging but fun. If you have been in a situation where you have not ‘had’ to date for a while, the thought of dating can be a bit daunting. Here are some rules for dating, taken from www.topdatingtips.com.
I did a Google search with my keywords as ‘how to date’ and there is a great deal of information for those of you new to dating, or needing to refresh your dating skills. The dating rules below were clearly written by a woman and are her thoughts, not mine. But they exemplify some of the fairly good information you can find with a Google search. Most importantly, treat your dates with respect and compassion. They are people with feelings, and they are in the same boat as you: looking for someone, probably going through changes, perhaps a bit ill-at-ease with their place in life at the moment. [Read more →]
Divorce
- You Are Not Alone!
- Life After Loss
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If you are going through a divorce, you are probably not alone, according to www.divorcerate.org. The following will give you some insights. Bottom line, you are more at risk for divorce if you married young, if you are childless, or if this is your second or third marriage (or more!).
Yet, even though you know the statistics, if you are in the midst of divorce, this information does not help. I will write more about coping strategies over time, and please feel free to write about your thoughts on the Community Forum. In the meantime, just know this is probably an unsettling time, a time of great stress, a time of intense feelings. Try to take deep breaths, and take care of yourself. Moments of deep breathing help one cope through any stressful situation. Treat your partner with respect, even if angry. [Read more →]
Engagement
- Ten Marriage Deal-Breaker Questions
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Engagements can be fun and exciting! But it is easy to get lost in the wedding plans and forget the bigger picture of marriage. Below are ten Deal-Breaker questions to ask yourself before you tie the knot:
1. Children: Do you want to have children? It is a huge red flag in your relationship if you and your future spouse can not agree on whether to have children or not. Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage is a mistake. Making a decision to have a baby when one parent doesn’t want to have children is not fair to the child or to your marriage. [Read more →]
Friendships
- Friendships and Change
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Friends are wonderful. Who doesn’t want friends? Yet, changes in one’s life can impact current friendships enormously. Friendships often develop out of some common ground–maybe you share interests, or lifestyles, or work at the same place. In other words, there is a basis for the friendship. But if a change occurs in one person’s life, it can have an enormous impact on the other person. [Read more →]
Marriage
- Marriage Through Tough Times
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Marriage is dynamic. Individually, we are always changing, which in turn forces us to be more flexible, adaptive and attuned to our spouse. As we move through change, one spouse is always forced to carry more of the load emotionally, financially, or physically until the other person is able to move through whatever change they are dealing with (new job, new child, injury, death in the family, etc.). The burden, however, will continue to shift throughout the course of the marriage. These are times that define inter-dependency, but there may be times when we don’t have enough “good memories, good times, positive emotions” in our bucket to carry the relationship through these challenging times. It can feel like a load we are not willing to carry. I believe it is in these times that we need to look back on the relationship and “highlight” or identify the reasons you love or ever loved that person. [Read more →]
Parents
- The Sandwich Generation
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More than 25% of American families are involved in some way with elder/parent care. So, if you are, you are not alone. A New York Times article (Jan 17, 1999) called “A Survival Course for the Sandwich Generation” described this new phenomena, as parents lived longer, and Boomers waited until later to have children. The Sandwich Generation means defines situations as: [Read more →]
