More and more lately I hear people talking about being “authentic.” I’m not sure if it has become a buzz word, or if people are really craving honesty and the kind of connection that can come when two people are authentic with each other.
I suspect that many people have become aware of the roles they play, the masks they wear. They worry that if they were really themselves, friends or coworkers wouldn’t approve of them. They pretend to be some way that they think will be acceptable. Or they avoid being vulnerable by hiding their “real self” behind behavior that isn’t really honest.
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What do the Dog Whisperer, Supernanny and an executive coach all have in common? It isn’t really a riddle. This may seem like a peculiar comparison, but each of these people help others become better leaders.
If you’ve ever watched Cesar Millon work his magic with dogs that are terrorizing their owners, neighbors and other dogs, you discover that he helps the owners learn to be better pack leaders. He doesn’t teach them to be bossy or mean; only to use calm, assertive energy to step into the void of leadership that is typical in situations where otherwise nice pets have run amok.
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“Sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me” Remember that old saying that we used as kids to try to cope with name-calling? It probably wasn’t very successful then, and in fact, just isn’t true. We now know that words can hurt.
We always knew that words could hurt our feelings, but it turns out that words can have a profound effect on our bodies as well. Every cell in our body is eavesdropping on everything we say and everything that is said to us.
Studies by Dr. Masaru Emoto demonstrated that water molecules respond to the words that are used about them, changing their structure to respond to the message. If the message is positive and loving, the water molecule changes into beautiful crystalline patterns; if the message is negative, the water molecule becomes deformed and ugly.
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This time of year is the time of “reconnection.” The holidays bring connections with family and friends; we remember the people in our lives for whom we are thankful; we send Christmas cards to reconnect with people we don’t see often enough. All are ways we reconnect with people who have been important in our lives.
Being able to reconnect with people who have been significant in your life is important. It allows you to reconnect with your old self. It allows you to remember significant experiences that helped shape you into who you are today. It connects you with the people who witnessed your growth. It allows you to reflect on who you used to be, how you have changed, and how you have stayed the same. It gives you a perspective on your life that is often missed in the hustle and activity of our daily lives.
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Many people are looking for meaningful relationships. Good relationships can lengthen your life span, impact your health, and bring great satisfaction and joy to your life. But sometimes it can be tough to figure out where to look.
When you are looking for a meaningful relationship the key is to start looking in the right places. Here are some tips:
1. Look in places where you are likely to find people who share your beliefs about what is important.
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