Marriage is dynamic. Individually, we are always changing, which in turn forces us to be more flexible, adaptive and attuned to our spouse. As we move through change, one spouse is always forced to carry more of the load emotionally, financially, or physically until the other person is able to move through whatever change they are dealing with (new job, new child, injury, death in the family, etc.). The burden, however, will continue to shift throughout the course of the marriage. These are times that define inter-dependency, but there may be times when we don’t have enough “good memories, good times, positive emotions” in our bucket to carry the relationship through these challenging times. It can feel like a load we are not willing to carry. I believe it is in these times that we need to look back on the relationship and “highlight” or identify the reasons you love or ever loved that person. [Read more →]

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