ChangeArtist is an informational resource and supportive community for individuals going through change. There is also a book called ChangeArtist: Surviving Change, discussed below.
I (JoNel) have been through many, many changes in life, and I found that they often made me feel isolated or lonely, confused and anxious. This lead me to a desire to help others through changes, hopefully softening what can be a sometimes [Read more →]
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Marriage is dynamic. Individually, we are always changing, which in turn forces us to be more flexible, adaptive and attuned to our spouse. As we move through change, one spouse is always forced to carry more of the load emotionally, financially, or physically until the other person is able to move through whatever change they are dealing with (new job, new child, injury, death in the family, etc.). The burden, however, will continue to shift throughout the course of the marriage. These are times that define inter-dependency, but there may be times when we don’t have enough “good memories, good times, positive emotions” in our bucket to carry the relationship through these challenging times. It can feel like a load we are not willing to carry. I believe it is in these times that we need to look back on the relationship and “highlight” or identify the reasons you love or ever loved that person. [Read more →]
Category: Marriage · Relationships
Have you ever wondered why you weren’t able to sustain your progress toward your goal? It’s a common experience. You may start out with great drive and enthusiasm, only to begin to lose motivation. You may think there is just something wrong with YOU. But have you ever considered the idea that the problem may rest in the nature of your goal?
Basically, all goals are to some degree or another, a “moving toward” goal or a “moving away from” goal. A “moving toward” goal is something very positive and so satisfying that it drives us forward. An example might be pursuing a life-long interest that you find stimulating and rewarding.
A “moving away from” goal is motivated by the desire to GET AWAY from something negative. An example of this might be the goal to leave a noxious work environment, or the desire to lose weight.
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Category: New Directions
Many people are looking for meaningful relationships. Good relationships can lengthen your life span, impact your health, and bring great satisfaction and joy to your life. But sometimes it can be tough to figure out where to look.
When you are looking for a meaningful relationship the key is to start looking in the right places. Here are some tips:
1. Look in places where you are likely to find people who share your beliefs about what is important.
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Category: Friendships · Relationships
I do not have children and have my regrets about that. A good friend of mine also has no children, but has recently (at age 57) assumed primary responsibility for her brother’s 4-year-old. This is eye-opening for her, and a great joy, although quite a lifestyle change!
It must be devastating to try and try, and not be able to have children, as this article attests to. My girlfriend went through a great deal to conceive her two children. She used an excellent OKC doctor who has a great reputation (Dr. David Kallenberger). I would love it if you would create a community here in which to discuss your feelings, your resources, and your coping strategies. This article also provides you with another community to help you cope with infertility.
Outgoing link: New York Times: Facing Life Without Children When It Isn’t by Choice
Category: Body · Children · Relationships
